Simply put, consent is a mutual agreement to physical, sexual, social and even emotional contact.
Having consent means that all folks involved in the activity are 100% STOKED on everything that is happening in the moment.
Freely given, not taken
Let’s Play Consent Mad Libs
“may i _______ (dance with, borrow, touch, grind, hold onto, massage, share, kiss, talk to, cuddle up to) your _______ (cute, delicious, lovely, beautiful, magical, sparkling, tense) _______ (self, hand, sunglasses, , mouth, back, snack, friend, unicorn horn, tentacle)?”
Consent can be retracted at any time.
Think of consent as a respectful and intimate way of checking in with the other person:
- “Is this okay?”
- “How are you?”
- “Do you like this?”
- “May I Continue?”
All parties involved need to be fully engaged, agreeable, and present in order for consent to be valid. Having sex while not sober has many layers that ideally involve communication, harm reduction knowledge, emotional and physical safety and more! Sometimes we aren’t in the right frame of mind to create the conditions needed to give or get consent. If there is any doubt — Stop. Go for a walk, check out the art installations, or take a nap in a hammock. Revisit the connection later if you are feeling it.
There is more to consent than just “Yes” or “No”. Remember to pay attention to how power is showing up in the exchange, body language and tone of voice.
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Our Harm Reduction, Security Team and festival crew take consent very seriously. Please let them know if someone is acting in a way that is making people feel uncomfortable. Let's all be responsible for the energy we bring to the dancefloor.
If you want to learn more about consent or are feeling unsafe, concerned, or overwhelmed or at any time during Bass Coast Festival, come visit the Sanctuary.
- Bass Coast Code of Conduct and Harassment Policy - https://basscoast.ca/pages/bass-coast-sexual-harassment-and-assault-policy
- Healing is Power - https://healingispower.dancesafe.org/
- Ankors has some great podcast about sex, consent, and raving.